"I like flaws. I think they make things interesting."
— Sarah Dessen
In theory, I like flaws too. The perfect something can be boring. The perfect something suggests complete order, and no surprises. When it comes to people, the flaws suggest vulnerability and humanity. Flaws invite compassion and tenderness yet they can also inspire great anger, resentment and grief. I am most attracted to people who are damaged. I think I feel most comfortable in their presence. Kids who are damaged allow me to be tender and understanding and to offer them acceptance and thoughtfulness. Flawed adults - especially flawed adults who are painfully aware of their shortcomings - allow me to know that I am not alone in my imperfections. I have the most difficult time with righteous and arrogant people. I don't understand people who are above error, above flaws. That righteousness builds walls that are strong and ugly.